By family who committed suicide8/14/2023 ![]() ![]() When people, even friends, would flippantly ask me “how he did it” I was appalled and felt retraumatized. I was so traumatized by the method my brother used to end his life that I couldn’t bring myself to say it for years. This information is incredibly personal to the loved ones of the deceased and it should only be brought up if they choose to disclose it. I understand that people are curious, especially about death, but this is inappropriate. Do not ask about the method the person used to end their life.This is more respectful of both those grieving and the person who passed. Instead, the appropriate language to use is that someone “took their life” or “died by suicide” or you can even say that someone “lost their battle to mental illness” in the way we often describe cancer deaths. People who have lost loved ones to suicide already feel the stigma around the way their loved one died and insinuating (even unintentionally) that this act was anything but the result of a deadly disease can compound the grief experience. The word commit has criminal connotations and we now know that suicide is not a crime, it is often the tragic result of mental illness. Please do not say that someone “committed” suicide. ![]() Based on my personal experience as well as my work in mental health promotion and suicide prevention, I have put together a short list of recommendations for how to react or respond when you learn of a suicide.Įveryone is different and their grieving process will be unique, therefore people may disagree on what is appropriate vs. I tried then and I try now to give people the benefit of the doubt, knowing that they are most likely not trying to be malicious but lack education in what is appropriate to say to someone grieving and what is inappropriate or even harmful to say. I lost my brother to suicide in 2012 and was overwhelmed by the number of inappropriate questions and responses I received regarding his death. This is especially true when we are talking about traumatic death such as suicide. It is difficult to know how to react when we learn that someone has died, whether it’s someone we know or a celebrity, but how we react can have an impact on those around us. ![]()
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